Anna Pasternak Has A New Column in The Daily Mail!

Anna Pasternak photographed by Joel Anderson - Feb. 2010


Hello everyone!

My friend and client, Anna Pasternak, has been working hard on her writing over the past year and now has a brand new project to share with you. She is an Internet technology novice which is why I am here to help spread the news on her behalf.

This is the introductory article for Anna’s brand new column in the Daily Mail that will begin next week! We hope that you will join her on her journey through therapy, self-discovery and self-love. Your comments on the Daily Mail site will be most appreciated as the more that people express their feelings about the column, the longer Anna will stay employed!

Can therapy find me love? Divorced, single mother Anna Pasternak tries one last throw of the dice

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1249238/Can-therapy-love-Divorced-single-mother-Anna-Pasternak-tries-throw-dice.html

There will be a new fan page created on Facebook (where there is now one for her novel, Daisy Dooley Does Divorce) on which we will post the weekly links to the column and any other articles that Anna writes for the Daily Mail and I will be inviting you all to join it. That will happen next week.

In the meantime, Anna sends her love and best wishes to everyone and if you would like to leave her a comment, you can leave it here or at this article’s link on the Daily Mail website (where she will definitely read it).

We appreciate you!

Love & Light,
Christine for Team Anna & Daisy xx

Win a Copy of Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak!

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Press+1 online entertainment magazine is giving you an opportunity to win a copy of my favourite book of 2008, Daisy Dooley Does Divorce! It makes for fun winter reading material or a great Christmas gift for a girlfriend who needs a good laugh!

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Seasons’ Greetings,
Daisy’s No. 1 fan x

Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak

Book Review
Title: Daisy Dooley Does Divorce
Author: Anna Pasternak
Publisher: 5 Spot
Released: 2007
Pages: 368
ISBN-10: 0446177946
ISBN-13: 978-0446177948
Stars: 4.5

Saturday, February 2, 2008 at 10:55am (Facebook)

This is the book I’m reading at the moment…snug in my bed under my brand new duvet where I can totally ignore the horrendous winter that’s waiting outside along with an hour’s worth of snow shoveling!

Daisy Dooley Does Divorce is a humorous and heartfelt romp through 39-year-old Brit, Daisy Dooley’s divorce and her consequent quest to understand men, relationships, and most importantly herself and the decisions she makes. It’s a Bridget Jones’s Diary for divorcees and an easy, charming and highly enjoyable read. It is laugh out loud funny, often thought-provokingly poignant and Daisy’s penchant for spiritual/self-help books makes her a kindred spirit. You will love this heartwarming, easy-to-read-in-a-few-sittings book about friendship and daring to realize one’s dreams, even if you’re not divorced or have never been married. Anyone who has been disappointed at some point in her life by love will find so much in common with delightful Daisy. She’s full of spirit, sass and sensitivity and if she were a real person I would want to be her friend.

This particular nugget of wisdom struck me this morning when I read it…

It was true – my heart was like Miles’s shelves, gnawed and splintered with emotional woodworm. I read on: “The difference between a little life and a big life is trust. Trust is the midwife of a big life. People only choose little lives because they don’t trust and they want to control.” That’s the most difficult thing in life, I thought, getting the balance right between not giving up on your dreams and yet having enough faith in their fruition to let them go.

This paragraph rings so true to me as I struggle every day of my life with climbing the mountain of adversity (the mountain that I know is largely self-made) and self-doubt, all the while wondering if I even believe in true love anymore, let alone have the faith that it will find me some day. I have to be willing to be open to it, to trust that it exists and that eventually there will be a man out there who won’t lie to me, use me, play me for the fool, trod all over my broken heart and leave me to reinforce my bitter, cynical, untrusting view of men. They can’t all be utter heartless, cruel, dishonest cads, can they? Now if I could just believe that and hold it as truth in my heart, I might have a fighting chance of actually attracting the right one. Must focus on The Law of Attraction and believe that I deserve the love of a truly good man! If I believe he’s out there, he will be and he will find me.

Discovering the novel Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak was the biggest joy I had in reading in 2008. The book was based on Anna’s weekly column of the same name in the London Daily Mail (it has since been retired). Anna’s honesty as a writer, the depth of her characters and her fantastic wit quickly made her a new favourite author and any woman who enjoys chick/wit lit or romance and relationships between women will undoubtedly love this book.

This is the review that changed my life.

It began with my becoming acquainted with a lovely, intelligent woman named Paige O’Neill who is the person who looks after The Waterboys’ online presence on numerous social networking websites. Paige and I connected in 2006 when I sent Mike Scott of The Waterboys a personal letter about a sick friend of mine who was a huge fan (as am I). We became good friends online and in the past three years she has become a soul sister of immense importance in my life, even though I have never met her in person.

Paige looks after the maintenance of Daisy Dooley’s MySpace profile for Anna Pasternak and in March 2008, after reading my review of the book, and with Paige’s recommendation, Anna asked me to help her maintain a Facebook fan page and group for Daisy Dooley. I was honoured to do it and I even got paid for it.

Since then, and as a result of Paige and Anna’s unfailing support and encouragement, I formed my own business, Scully Love Promo, promoting authors & musicians using the major social networking websites on the internet. Over the past year and a half, I have worked for at least 10 different talented artists and although this is only a part-time endeavor for me at this time, I believe there is a good chance that it could one day become my full-time job. And I love it! I love spreading the love about artists that I respect and admire. I’ve done this naturally for many years through my review writing and in every day conversation with friends. However, now I get paid to do it, and I owe that privilege to Paige O’Neill and Anna Pasternak, who are the most amazingly resilient, spiritual, intelligent, and loving women and friends that anyone could hope to have.

Above all else, that is why I continue to recommend this delightful book, Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak (available through 5 Spot, a division of Hachette Books, Grand Central’s trade paperback imprint featuring fresh, original voices in women’s fiction and nonfiction).

New Article by Anna Pasternak from The Daily Mail


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Is there even ONE straight, kind, solvent single man in his 40s left in Britain?

By Anna Pasternak
29th July 2009

Recently, I gave a talk to 300 women entitled Hope After Heartbreak. I catalogued my emotionally devastating 30s; getting divorced, having a child with a younger man and being left a single mother.

Then I detailed how I’d overcome my grief and shame to find an unexpected level of contentment in my 40s.

When I was asked, as I knew I would be, had I found love again, my answer was ‘sadly not’. Did I think I would? My honest response was that I hoped so, but that I no longer had any certainty.

Two types of men: The overgrown ‘kidults’ – men who have degenerated into hopeless commitment-phobes and the successful, solvent divorcés who approach dating like a cold business transaction

Because when I look around at my girlfriends – bright, attractive, successful, fabulous women in their 40s who are single – I sincerely begin to wonder: Is there even one solvent, kind, desirable, heterosexual single man in his 40s left in Britain?

My friends and I have a horrible suspicion that the answer is no.

The topic was much debated when I went on a detox holiday in Morocco at Easter with nine single women, ranging in age from mid-30s to late-40s and all looking for love.

At first I thought it would be an oestrogen-infused nightmare, but as I got to know the women, all well-educated and successful (including bankers, a lawyer, a top fashion buyer, a media executive and an art historian), we bonded over our inability to find our male match.

Some of the bankers confessed to resorting to affairs with married men at work, which was depressing, but mostly we concluded we were unable to find what we were looking for because like-minded men of our age didn’t exist.

Why? Because our male counterparts were looking for something completely different.

I have been single for the past four years and have dated a handful of men. As far as I can see, they fall into two distinct camps. There are the overgrown ‘kidults’ – men who have degenerated into hopeless commitment-phobes and just want to have ‘fun’ (ie lots of sex) with taut twenty-somethings. They just seem to seek endless couplings, often facilitated by the internet.

Then there are the successful, solvent divorcés who are so determined to find wife number two pronto that they approach dating like a cold business transaction.

A first date with a corporate-style player is as relaxing as a high-pressure job interview (for a job you’re not sure you want) as they mentally tick boxes and suss your potential worth on the marriage market.

I have been asked before the starter ‘So what is it that you are looking for in a relationship?’ and by pudding I’ve been told in unstinting detail exactly what he wants.

Believe me, in all this it’s not a case of us women being unrealistic or fussy. It’s our male counterparts who are more exacting, arrogant and demanding than we could ever be, and who have this vile presumption that they are some kind of sought-after prize that we would be so lucky to ‘get’.

For once, they feel in a position of power in the sex war – and they are exploiting it for all it’s worth.

One City high-flyer told me over dinner in a slick Mayfair restaurant that he couldn’t contemplate a relationship with a woman with whom he didn’t have compatible skin tone. He ordered me to whip off my watch so we could compare our natural skin colour.

He also boasted that he had a strong awareness of aesthetics and had already clocked my accessories (yuk!). He turned out to be obscenely wealthy – when I asked where he lived, he said ‘on a plane’, meaning his private plane.

I realised, during our evening together, when he rattled off the story of his divorce, proudly announcing that he had left her, that he was one of the many male divorcés stung by handing over huge alimonies and who secretly hate women and are after only unchallenging trophy wives.

These men are so adept at sizing you up – your wealth and your looks – that they don’t bother to see who you really are. And they don’t care that an intelligent forty-something woman like me seeks a spark of recognition, of mutual companionship and respect.

My friend Lizzie, a 43-year-old art director, says it was a real surprise to start dating at 40 after her marriage ended.

‘I’ve always had boyfriends before, but I’ve been single for three years now, as I’m not so attractive a proposition any more. I’ve had a child and have responsibility, which these immature men of our age see as terrifying baggage – which is hypocritical when many of them have ex-wives who are bringing up their kids.’

Her last date was with a freshly divorced executive on the prowl for his second wife.

‘There was very little about him wanting to find out about me, but he wanted to find out if I suited him. It was a straightforward interrogation which left me feeling raw because I was trying to be honest in my answers. And afterwards, when he didn’t call, I felt exposed and rejected, as if I’d failed an audition.’

Another girlfriend of mine, Francesca, 40, who works in advertising and has never married or had children, echoes the exasperation we feel.

‘Of course I’d love to be in a relationship, but I haven’t got the energy to waste with men who can’t commit. I do think there are perfectly well-adjusted men out there, but they are already in relationships.’

Francesca was seeing a man who took her out to dinner often, yet told her he couldn’t have a relationship with her because he was waiting for the woman who would ‘knock his socks off’.

But, as she rightly points out: ‘He doesn’t let any woman close enough to knock his socks off, which is probably why he’s having casual sex with a twenty-something work colleague.’

Francesca believes the problem is far worse in Britain than elsewhere. ‘In Europe, the family is still so important that men do want to embrace being a husband. In America, to have a woman with a ring on her finger gives you status.

‘If you are a straight American man and seen as incapable of having a relationship, you are seen as slightly deficient. Yet these British men in their 40s seem to celebrate playing the field, as though it is a badge of masculinity.

‘Here, we are dysfunctional as a society because the family is not regarded as important any more. Divorce is increasing because it no longer affects your status in society. So these men have no cultural imperative to grow up.’

Relationship counsellor Tom McCabe says: ‘There is a stunting of male emotional growth from about the age of 14, which they cover up with charm, good looks or cleverness as they grow up. If these men are still single in their 40s, or become single again, they look in the mirror and want to be 18, whereas a forty-something woman is more realistic about herself.

‘These men are looking for girls, but women are looking for men. I continually have to say to men who come to me: “Please don’t refer to women as birds, chicks, babes or even girls.”

‘The situation is worse today because more men are becoming single again in their 40s,’ he says. ‘It’s all about recapturing their youth. They need to grow up, change their language and start seeing women for who they are.’

Well, we can’t hold our breath for that, so do we continue searching for that elusive four-leafed clover mature man, or just give up?

Among my friends, we seem to have arrived at a similar place. We’ve stopped actively dating (I haven’t dated for a year) and have learned to rely on ourselves more than ever before. Not in an outdated, strident, man-hating ‘we’re OK on our own’ way, because we’re not really OK.

We genuinely like men and would love affection and a loving relationship. But not at the cost of subjugating ourselves to the whims of a misogynist with his eye on the young girl across the restaurant.

We’ve learned to enrich ourselves, and our female friendships have become our lifeline. And we live in hope of a miracle.

Anna Pasternak Speaking at Starting Over Show in Brighton on March 15th


Add to Technorati FavoritesThe lovely British author of Daisy Dooley Does Divorce, Anna Pasternak, will be a guest speaker at the Starting Over Show in Brighton (UK) next month on March 15th at the Barcelo Old Ship Hotel. This is the first event to be dubbed a ‘divorce fair’ and you can read more about it here:

First advice event dubbed ‘divorce fair’

Anna says, “I’ll be talking about my own experiences of finding hope after disappointment and the difficulties of keeping your heart open once they have been bruised. Basically, the message of DDDD! And I’ll be signing copies of the book and answering questions too.”

Sounds like a wonderful opportunity for divorcees to network! Don’t miss out!

Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak

4 STARS

Discovering the novel Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak has been the biggest joy I’ve had in reading all year and I read it in February!

Her honesty as a writer, the depth of her characters and her fantastic wit has quickly made her a new favourite author and any woman who enjoys chick/wit lit or romance and relationships between women will undoubtedly love this book!

Daisy Dooley Does Divorce is a humourous and heartfelt romp through 39 year old Brit, Daisy Dooley’s divorce and her consequent quest to understand men, relationships, and most importantly herself and the decisions she makes. It’s a Bridget Jones’s Diary for divorcees and an easy, charming and highly enjoyable read. Fans of Sex and The City will also laugh out loud at this funny, often thought-provokingly poignant story and Daisy’s penchant for spiritual/self-help books makes her a kindred spirit.

You will love this heartwarming, easy-to-read-in-a-few-sittings book about friendship and daring to realize one’s dreams, even if you’re not divorced or have never been married. Anyone who has been disappointed at some point in her life by love will find so much in common with delightful Daisy. She’s full of spirit, sass and sensitivity and if she were a real person I would want to be her friend.

This particular nugget of wisdom struck me…

“It was true – my heart was like Miles’s shelves, gnawed and splintered with emotional woodworm. I read on: “The difference between a little life and a big life is trust. Trust is the midwife of a big life. People only choose little lives because they don’t trust and they want to control.” That’s the most difficult thing in life, I thought, getting the balance right between not giving up on your dreams and yet having enough faith in their fruition to let them go.”

You can stay in touch with London Daily Mail columnist and author Anna Pasternak on MySpace and on Facebook.

Starting Over With Anna Pasternak

Hello everyone!

My friend Anna Pasternak has some news for you.

The Starting Over Show is hosting an event that takes place at the Barcelo Old Ship Hotel in Brighton, UK on 15 March 2009 and will include a workshop with Divorce Doctor Francine Kaye and a talk by Daily Mail columnist Anna Pasternak (Daisy Dooley Does Divorce). Read more here http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/visiting/key-speakers/

You can read Anna’s Starting Over story here:

http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/starting-over-by-anna-pasternak/

We’d love to read your comments, so please leave one.

You can also discover 7 ways to leave your lover, just in case you’re thinking about it, here:

http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/seven-ways-to-leave-your-lover/

Thank you for your continuing support.

Love & light,
Christine for Team Daisy x

Anna Pasternak Speaking at Henley Literary Festival in September!

The lovely Anna Pasternak, author of Daisy Dooley Does Divorce, would like you to know that she will be speaking at the Henley Literary Festival on Saturday, September 20th, 2008 at 4:00 pm. If you would like to see (and possibly meet) Anna in person and you live in the UK near London, this is your chance! All information about the Henley Literary Festival can be found at this link:

http://www.henleyliteraryfestival.co.uk/

32 – Anna Pasternak and Marius Brill – Battle of the Sexes – £5
16.00
Phyllis Court

Journalists Anna Pasternak and Marius Brill took Fielding’s Jones (Bridget not Tom) model into the 21st century, but in opposite directions. One laughed with her, the other at her.  Pasternak’s Daisy Dooley Does Divorce was described as “frequently hilarious and sharply, wittily written” by the Daily Mail. Brill’s Making Love, a Conspiracy of the Heart inspired this warning from Time Out: “Women who snort when they laugh and men prone to getting erections in public should read this at home.” Now the two authors go head to head to defend their comic visions and give insights into what makes us laugh.

http://www.henleyliteraryfestival.co.uk/programme2.html#pasternak

Daisy Dooley Does Divorce by Anna Pasternak

Scully Love Promo (a.k.a. Christine Bode) would like to tell you about a fantastically funny, heartwarming delight of a book called:

DAISY DOOLEY DOES DIVORCE by Anna Pasternak

It’s a funny inspiring tale for anyone who has braved the courageous and sometimes disastrous journey towards true love.

Meet Daisy Dooley:

“The only thing sadder than being thirty-nine and still single is being thirty-nine and freshly divorced. And unemployed. And living with your mother. (And her dogs.)”

In the tradition of Sex and the City and Bridget Jones’s Diary, Anna Pasternak’s popular column in the London Daily Mail, Daisy Dooley Does Divorce, has evolved into this witty novel full of hope, humor, wine…and dachshunds.

Daisy Dooley Does Divorce has a profile on MySpace and a Fan Page and a Group (Fans of Daisy Dooley Does Divorce) on Facebook, each one with slightly different content, celebrating the novel. I invite you to read about it and its lovely author there and add yourself as a fan. All you have to do is type Daisy Dooley in the Search box on the top left hand corner of your Facebook profile.

Publisher: 5 Spot (Hachette Book Group USA) / Ebury Publishing under their Vermilion titles in the UK

Author Bio:

ANNA PASTERNAK is the author of the popular column, Daisy Dooley Does Divorce, which has been running in London’s Daily Mail since November of 2004. She is also the author of the New York Times bestseller Princess in Love about Diana’s love affair with Major James Hewitt. The grandniece of Russian novelist Boris Pasternak of Dr. Zhivago fame, she lives outside of London with her daughter Daisy and her dog Wilfred.

More about Anna, by Anna:

Believe it or not, a woman as daft, ditzy, desperate, daring and occasionally as delightful as Daisy Dooley is someone I relate closely to. I’m not saying I’m quite that self-absorbed. Actually that’s a fib because I am. But really my life had started out with such promise. The idyllic childhood. The famous ancestry. The revered Oxford academic father. The beautiful interior designer mother. The place at Oxford University with the glittering social life to match. With a siren-spinning surname, I owed it to myself and my family to do something of note. So of course my future was all mapped out. I’d waltz out of Oxford and into some top job that marked me out as special, wouldn’t I? But that wasn’t quite the way it happened, and it knocked me for quite a loop. Really, who wouldn’t agonize over such monumental life cock-ups- realizing on your honeymoon that you had married the wrong man. Come on, could it get any worse?

Naturally I worried myself half to death about how I was then going to get my life right, let alone learn to love again- myself and a worthy mate, that is. So Daisy Dooley was born out of my own ridiculous and miserable myopic marriage and divorce, followed by my dire dating experiences. I found that the only way to reach the other side of unhappiness and raging insanity was to poke fun and send myself up in the most unbecoming, but hopefully often endearing ways. And judging by the sales in self-help, I can’t be the only woman who has stood in a bookshop by a stack of best sellers, feeling utterly broken inside and turned with trembling hands to any uplifting tome that might just instill a further nugget of promise that actually, yes, if you believe this or chant that, you will feel less of a failure and more emotionally grounded and secure.

As I ricocheted from starter marriage to a relationship with a younger man that ended in- further shock and horror- my single mother status, at least I clung to my spiritual support. I began to believe in something bigger than myself- if the knight on the white charger wasn’t going to save me, at least my guardian angel might. I’ve lived through all Daisy’s disappointments but have an amazing daughter to show for it. And would you believe it, after all the life knocks, I still believe in the happy ending!